Trust Yourself. Follow your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. Trusting yourself might mean that you have to stand up to your friends. It could mean breaking away from the crowd and taking part in a group or activity that some might not think is cool enough. Once, I had a best friend some of my other friends thought was “uncool.” Even a family member encouraged me to distance myself from her. I didn’t think it was right, but I followed their advice for fear of becoming less popular than I was. I ended up losing a best friend, while my other “friends” turned out to be not such good ones. To this day, I regret following the voices of others rather than following my own.
Know Yourself. Try new things. Do something you didn’t think you could do. Explore new interests and activities you might not have thought about trying before. I was always involved in sports and only sports. Then my English teacher encouraged me to join the school paper. None of my friends were on it, but I joined anyway. I learned that I loved to write. I ended up studying journalism in college and working in journalism afterward. But best of all, being involved in a different activity introduced me to a whole new circle of friends I otherwise would not have had.
Be Yourself. You’ve probably heard this one lots, but it’s true and sometimes hard to do. Everyone wants to fit in and have friends. Sometimes it’s easier to blend into the crowd than to stick out. Once, a classmate of mine teased me about something I was wearing. I never wore it again. But I liked it and later on wondered why I valued her opinion over mine. Have the confidence to be who you are. It’s not always easy, but some day those negative classmates will move on and take their opinions with them. Value yourself; embrace your unique style.
Thanks, G is 4 Girl, for the fabulous tips! You rock!